The pregnancy scam is one of the more sinister scams that can occur in Thailand. It works by spinning a web of deceit and playing on your emotions.
How does the pregnancy scam work? It is really quite simple. You’re spending some romantic time with a Thai bar girl, dancer, or even a ‘non-working’ girl that you met while in Thailand. Maybe the condom breaks or you didn’t use one. You head off back home and think nothing more of it until you get a message which reads "My period is late... I’m pregnant".
Why would a Thai girl lie about being pregnant? Well, any man with a conscience is much less likely to walk away from a woman that could be carrying his child. The lady might demand money to pay for an abortion; but more often they will use the claim of being pregnant to lure the man back to Thailand, or to extract more money from him so that she can stop working around alcohol while pregnant.
There are many different motives that could be behind telling this lie, but the same principle applies each time. It’s an emotional blackmail which gives the Thai woman a sense of security that the man will not walk away from her.
Often ladies involved with this type of scam will have used it on many different men over a number of years. Over time they can hone their abilities and make their claims seem very believable.
It’s very difficult to outsmart a woman that is practiced in these tricks, as they’ve heard and seen it all before. Positive pregnancy tests can be ordered online or obtained from pregnant friends. There are even reports of some ladies allegedly taking drugs which bloat out their stomachs and help to make their foreign boyfriends believe that they’re really pregnant.
By the time the man has found out his lady was lying, he will have spent more time with her and formed an emotional attachment to her which will be hard to break. We have often seen women that claim to be pregnant conveniently miscarry shortly before they're due for an ultrasound examination. Others can be more creative and string out their claims even longer.
Pregnancy is a big deal in Thailand. Unlike in Europe or North America there is very little government welfare available, if you can’t afford to feed and clothe your baby there are few safety nets. With this being the case, it would be unwise for a Thai woman to fall pregnant with a man she barely knows.
If you think that you might be falling victim to this scam then there are things which we can do to help you. We can find out if your girlfriend is cheating on you while you’re out of the country, or try to see if she is continuing to consume alcohol while claiming to be pregnant.
While it’s difficult for us to determine whether or not someone is in fact pregnant, we can find out if they’re lying to you about other things before you make big emotional or financial commitments to them. We are a leading detective agency working across Bangkok, Pattaya and Phuket. Get in touch with us if you think that you could use our help. We offer free quotes for all work and are glad to offer help and support to our clients.
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Marital status in Thailand could be described as somewhat different from other parts of the world and particularly that of Western countries. If you’re thinking about running a background check on your Thai partner for example, it’s important to understand the logistics of marriage in Thai culture.
Very often when Thai people marry each other they will have a very lavish and beautiful ceremony. They might pay for a live musical performance, an expensive venue and a lovely meal for all of their guests to enjoy. Of course, a dowry or “sin sod” is usually paid as well, and this can be made up of a large quantity of cash as well as gold, vehicles or property. See our blog post: How much does a dowry cost at a Thai wedding?
How is marital status different in Thailand? Often Thai people will have these expensive ceremonies but they will not legally marry each other, and this is quite common. The legal element can be something of an afterthought which many people in Thailand do not go through with.
Sometimes Thai men will be reluctant to legally marry due to the implications of this if the couple breaks up… Courts can allocate assets and if you’re bringing more to the table than your partner then there is a clear advantage in dodging the legal unification that comes with marriage. Men in Thailand cannot be forced to pay child support unless they are legally married to the child’s mother.
On a side note, if you’re planning on getting married and dodging the legal side of things in order to protect your assets from being awarded to your partner during a divorce, this is not an iron clad tactic. Judges are able to determine that a “de facto” marriage has taken place and award assets based on this – so be prepared to honor your commitments either way.
If you are paying to find out about your partner’s marital status or marital history in Thailand, the results of this may not reflect reality. The practice of having a marriage ceremony without becoming legally married is quite common here. Obviously no official records are made if the couple chooses not to legally marry.
Note: This website does not provide legal advice. You should speak to a lawyer directly if you need legal advice. Please see our legal disclaimer.
Are you thinking about having an a go-go dancer as your girlfriend? This post will touch on the subject of men that are together with Thai ladies working in go-go bars.
Many Western guys are in relationships with go-go dancers. Usually these are open relationships; the lady continues to sleep with men to earn a living while her boyfriend back home waits to video call her once a night when she finishes work. If you’re seeking this type of arrangement we have some words of advice for you.
First of all, anyone in a relationship with an a go-go dancer should be mindful about sexually transmitted diseases. Prostitution (as of 2019) is illegal in Thailand, bars are not obliged to send their employees for testing. There are many false rumors circulating online that these women are regularly tested for STDs, sadly this is mostly untrue. The cost of testing one or two dozen women every couple of months would add up and be another overhead for the bar owners, who are in no way required to perform these tests. Don’t underestimate the amount of men a popular dancer can leave with on a regular basis, and don’t take risks with your health.
Secondly, be aware that many Thai ladies in this field of work aim to recruit several boyfriends. They want 4 or 5 different boyfriends at the same time. Maybe you’re not sending her money this month but another ‘boyfriend’ might. How can you tell if a lady has multiple boyfriends? You can’t. Women that play this game are professionals, using different cellphones, different social media personas, and a large toolbox of convincing excuses that have been tried and tested over a number of years. Don’t think you can outsmart a Thai lady running this type of scam, you won’t. Popular bar girls or dancers often hone their skills over many years… They’ve heard and seen it all before. Is she speaking to other men while you’re not around? Does she have multiple Facebook accounts for different men? It’s very difficult to avoid this trap.
If you’re planning to take your girlfriend out of the bar or go-go and help her find another job; then you need to be ready and willing to wire significant amounts of money to her. Popular dancers are often able to earn lots of money every month, and if she’s used to a high rolling lifestyle then it might cost you a small fortune helping to support her. You will be responsible for supporting her, her immediate family and anyone else that relies on her… This can really add up, and it would be wise to perform some due diligence of your own before taking on these financial burdens.
Does she claim never to leave the bar with men? Most often these claims are false and the ladies will masterfully hide their activities while their boyfriend is out of town. Again, don’t underestimate these women; some are incredibly skillful at lying to their partners. If she is leaving the bar with customers, you will never find this out on your own if you’re out of the country. This is where we come in.
We can find if your girlfriend is leaving the go-go with customers or giving her number out to men. We can find out if your girlfriend tells customers that she’s single or in a relationship. As a detective agency based in Thailand, this is our job and we have already exposed countless ladies working in go-gos. If you would like the truth about a lady, we can deliver, and often hiring a PI is the only way to uncover the truth when dealing with ladies involved with this line of work. We work across Thailand and offer free quotes for all work, get in touch with us today and see what we can do for you. Or visit our homepage for more information about what we do.
We would like to wish all of our clients new an old a very happy Songkran in 2019. Please be careful on the roads and keep yourselves hydrated by drinking plenty of water. Have a great time and thank you for choosing us.
So your husband is visiting Pattaya for “golf”, what’s the problem? Every man we’ve ever investigated that has told their partner they were visiting Pattaya for golf also came to the city for something different entirely. He might have paid for a very expensive golfing holiday; he might be playing golf every day. But what is he doing in the evening time and the night time? Many are out picking up women to spend the night with.
Thousands of single men come to Pattaya on holiday every year. Pattaya is often described as the largest hub for sexual tourism on planet earth; with an estimated 27,000 active prostitutes the city is known as a place where middle aged men come to pay for sex. Many of these men are single, however many others have wives or girlfriends at home.
Typically men that are visiting Pattaya to meet hookers will pay for at least one different lady to spend the night with them every single day. This is what we have come to expect and it makes our job easier if the man is sleeping with this many women. Some other men that holiday in Thailand will find a lady working in a bar and pay her an agreed price for her to stay with him every day during his holiday, like a paid short term girlfriend.
There are golf courses in and around Pattaya, of course. However Pattaya is most well known as “sin city” with thousands of strip clubs (go-gos), beer bars, discos, and many other places designed for women to hook up with men. Search online for information about Pattaya and it will become imminently obvious what the focus of this city is for thousands of guys. It’s almost like the golf courses were built to give an alibi for their activities.
If your husband is holidaying in Thailand, we can help you. Don’t let your partner run around wild when you’re not on vacation with him. Thousands of men will unleash their inner demons when visiting Thailand safe in the knowledge that their wives or girlfriends back home will never know. We can, and have, changed this for many women.
If we’re able to secure photographic evidence showing that a man is cheating there is effectively nothing he can say or do to dispute this. The camera never lies and excuses often fall on deaf ears as a result.
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There is a lot of information online about bargirls and go-go dancers working in Pattaya. Something that's spoken less about is ladies that freelance. Many ladies living in Pattaya (or Bangkok) work as freelancers. Some of these women have legitimate jobs (in supermarkets, restaurants, banks) in the daytime and freelance in the evening times. Other women will not have any jobs and only work as freelancers, meeting men in some of the many clubs and discos across the city.
So how can you tell if your girlfriend is freelancing in Pattaya? There are many clubs in Pattaya that are popular with freelancers, including Insomnia (iBar), 808 club, Lucifer, Mixx, Torus (and many other places). Many foreign boyfriends of Thai ladies will never believe that their girlfriend is working as a freelancer and meeting men at clubs in the city, despite the lady visiting these clubs every single day. Often times these boyfriends will be unaware of how many different men their partner is sleeping with during her job as a freelancer.
Here's what you need to remember: Drinks at clubs such as these are expensive. If you're visiting these clubs every day or many times per week you must spend a lot of money on drinks. A Thai woman that is out of work will not visit Insomnia every night (or another club) unless she is going there to meet up with men. When she meets a customer at one of these clubs she will earn money to support herself.
Realize that if your girlfriend is visiting a club every day or very regularly, that the cost of buying several drinks per night in these clubs is high. An unemployed Thai lady will not spend all the cash she has buying expensive drinks in clubs, unless she is specifically in those clubs for the purpose of meeting customers. (Or she has lots of money.) This is really a no-brainer when you break down and think about the facts of someone's lifestyle and financial state. Is your girlfriend freelancing in Pattaya?
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