Husband cheating in Thailand

May 4, 2020 - Reading time: 6 minutes

Is your husband cheating on you in Thailand? As a leading detective agency, we have seen literally hundreds of foreign men commit acts of infidelity during their visits to Thailand. These men come from all different ages and walks of life.

However, don’t just take our word for it. We have found many posts online with woman complaining about their partners’ infidelity during trips to Thailand: Husbands cheating in Thailand

As is seen in these posts, men that pay for sex in Thailand don’t seem to fit any one stereotype. We have caught men ranging in age from their early twenties up to men in their eighties, and everything in-between.

We have seen men that claim to be visiting Thailand for business engage in the sex industry, however they more often visit for vacations or ‘holidays in the sun’. Some men visiting Thailand will use excuses such as “I’m just visiting Thailand to play golf!” or “I’m just going to scuba dive”… These alibis often work, especially if their wife or girlfriend has never visited the red light districts in Thailand and doesn’t understand the prevalence of the sex industry here.

Where do men pay for sex in Thailand?

Men can pay for sex in many different places, including venues such as go-go bars, nightclubs, massage parlors, discos, karaoke bars and gentlemen’s clubs. However, most of the time we catch men soliciting prostitutes in beer bars. Bars seem to the top choice for foreigners looking to pay for sex in Thailand. Women that serve beer at Thai bars are effectively prostitutes… They earn a small salary each month and a percentage every time a customer buys them a drink. When a customer decides to take a lady from the bar, he will pay a fee to the bar itself in exchange for taking their staff, called a ‘bar fine’. In addition to the ‘bar fine’ the customer will also need to agree a payment to the lady herself.

If your boyfriend or husband tells you he is just ‘having an innocent beer at a bar’, realize that he is in the company of prostitutes. He is being served drinks by prostitutes who will usually make light conversation, ask him to purchase drinks, and find out whether he is interested in taking them back to his hotel room. Some bar girls can be persuasive and even aggressive as they seek out customers in order to earn a living. Night clubs are also popular with foreign men visiting Thailand; the clubs tend to be frequented by ‘freelancers’. Freelancers are simply freelance prostitutes that hangout in clubs, bars and sometimes even restaurants that encourage the ladies to work there. Freelancers can also earn a commission on drinks purchased for them, depending on the venue. Of course, in many areas of tourist-geared cities such as Bangkok, Pattaya and Phuket, freelancers can also be found loitering on the side of the road where they aim to meet clients

Massage parlors are also very common venues for foreign men to pay for sex while visiting Thailand. Massages are often given in private rooms or behind curtains, with the masseuse having discretion as to the services she decides to offer.

The dangers

Men that pay for sex in Thailand can often become walking health hazards to their partners back home. According to statistics published by Avert.org, Thailand has one of the highest HIV prevalence in Asia and the Pacific… HIV rates are reported to be exceptionally high among female sex workers - as high as 20% in Bangkok. While men that hire prostitutes in Thailand might use condoms, many of these men insist on receiving fellatio without protection, which carries its own dangers. According to research published by the NYPost, sex tourism in Southeast Asia fueling rise of 'super gonorrhea', which is an STI that has developed antibiotic resistant properties, making it difficult to treat. Professor Johnjoe McFadden, a molecular geneticist at Surrey University, has said that “sex workers in popular getaways including Thailand could be fueling a rise in antibiotic-resistant STIs”.

Many women understandably ask their partners to take tests for sexually transmitted diseases on their return from Thailand.

The psychology behind husbands cheating in Thailand

Men that cheat on their partners while in Thailand might not normally do so while in their home countries. In Thailand, thousands of miles from their homes, these men often feel that they can get away with committing infidelity undetected. With the influence of alcohol and sometimes prostitutes that are very eager to earn money, the temptations can prove too difficult to resist for many men.

We have seen numerous cases where small groups of men visit Thailand together. Away from their wives and girlfriends back home, they go on to hire multiple different prostitutes during their visits here. Whether they have agreed a ‘code of silence’ or not, we see this type of behavior very often. Other men that are visiting Thailand as part of a group will solicit prostitutes alone, sneaking out of their hotel rooms while their friends are asleep or splitting off from their groups… However, this type of behavior is rare in our experience.

Prepare for the results

Having operated in Thailand for many years, nothing shocks us anymore. Typically men visiting Thailand that are investigated by us will be seen with numerous different prostitutes during their stays here. We have caught men spending time with women that are much younger than themselves, with ladyboys and sometimes with other men.

If you’re deciding to start an investigation with us then it’s important to consider any potential outcomes and how you might react. We aim to capture high quality images/video which acts as evidence and leaves no doubt in your mind. These images are often used by our clients in their divorce proceedings… If you are intending for us to gather evidence for use in legal proceedings then it’s important to let us know ahead of time so that we’re able to accommodate your request. Other women that have caught their partners cheating in Thailand with our help have decided to change the locks on their property and leave their husband to be greeted by their clothing laying on their front lawn on their return. While we absolutely do not encourage this type of behavior, taking the opportunity to receive legal advice while your husband is out of the country is often a wise move.

We can help

If you suspect that your husband or boyfriend might be cheating on you while in Thailand, we can help. We are experts at providing discreet surveillance and have caught hundreds of men committing infidelity here. Our agency has divisions in Pattaya, Bangkok, Phuket, Chiang Mai, and we cover virtually the whole country. If you suspect that your partner might be cheating on you during his trip to Thailand then please feel free to get in touch with one of our experienced team members for a free, no pressure quote.


Thai girlfriend background checks

May 2, 2020 - Reading time: 6 minutes

As a leading detective agency based in Thailand, we regularly run Thai girlfriend background checks for our clients. We offer basic and enhanced background checks depending on the needs and requirements of our clients.

Thai girlfriend background checks typically include:

  • Check marital status and marital history
  • Name of any previous husbands and divorces information (where applicable)
  • Property residence checks (check for children or boyfriends living at the subject’s property)
  • Education/employment checks
  • Social media checks
  • Dating/adult website checks
  • Criminal record check/check for arrest warrants

Note: We will NOT hack your partner’s phone or social media accounts as this is against the law, please don’t ask.

All background checks are completed by us with 100% confidentiality and discretion. The subject will never find out that they have been subject to a background check. We offer free quotes for all work. Please feel free to get in touch with one of our experienced team members for more information on our background checks service.

Background check alternatives

Background investigations are useful to check if a Thai girl is married, check her marital history, living circumstances, work history, etcetera. However, running a background check on your Thai girlfriend is not always the best form of investigation, depending on your circumstances and the type of information that you are looking to uncover. If your girlfriend is working at a bar then you might find our decoy service to be more appropriate – as part of our decoy service we can find out if your girlfriend is leaving the bar with customers and whether she tells customers that she has a boyfriend, for example. Decoys can also be used at massage parlors, go-go bars, and many other service industry type occupations.

If you suspect that your Thai girlfriend might be actively involved in another relationship that she is concealing from you then we can investigate through personal surveillance instead, which involves checking the subject’s whereabouts and collecting hard evidence in the form of images/video to show her activity.

Are Thai girlfriends faithful?

We think it’s fair to say that the majority of Thai women are faithful to their partners and do not tend to commit acts of infidelity… However, it’s important to realize that the majority of women in Thailand also cannot speak English fluently and do not form romantic relationships with foreign men. Thai ladies that seek relationships with foreigners are effectively a small subset of the population. There is undoubtably another subset of women in Thailand that are responsible for proliferating romance scams, where their sole aim of a relationship is to extract money from their partners.

Traditionally women that are responsible for romance scams tend to have occupations in the nightlife scene, such as bar girls, go-go dancers and ladies working in massage parlors. However, over the past several years we have seen a steep increase in more refined Thai women that seek to manipulate their partners by having multiple foreign boyfriends at the same time. We have seen, for example, many Thai women that were attending universities meet their boyfriends through dating apps or websites. As these women are perceived to be more respectable than ‘working girls’, they often find it easier to form serious romantic relationships with foreigners; who in turn have a false sense of security that their girlfriend really is ‘different’. University students and Thai women that are working “normal jobs” have the potential to work this scam much easier than women you might find in the nightlife industry.

All ladies are different and it’s very difficult to predict whether or not your partner is likely to be faithful based on advice or information found online. If you have read the horror stories and are having suspicions about your Thai girlfriend, we can investigate her and uncover the truth in your case.

Why do Thai women cheat on their partners?

If we’re discussing relationships between Thai ladies and foreigners, then we think it’s fair to say that the main motivation for infidelity in these relationships tends to be money. It is not secret that some unscrupulous Thai ladies make a living out of being in relationships with foreigners… The goal for many of these women is to have several boyfriends at the same time – some men might send the lady an allowance every month while others only help out if the lady is having financial problems.

Women that have been exposed to the nightlife scene for prolonged periods tend to develop a strange morality where they no longer feel guilt for cheating on their partners. We have seen many ladies that appear to enjoy working as escorts and spending time with new men. If your girlfriend is living in a city such as Bangkok, Pattaya or Phuket, then it’s easy for her to try and hookup with men at bars and nightclubs which encourage freelancers to drink there. We have seen many women that work respectable jobs in the daytime head out in the evenings to such places. For many ladies this is a lifestyle that they really seem to enjoy.

Check your Thai girlfriend

We recognize that taking the decision to check your Thai girlfriend can be difficult. Our goal is to help provide you with peace of mind and the confidence to proceed with significant life decisions. If we are not able to give you peace of mind then we will have the unfortunate task of delivering the truth in your situation and evidence of infidelity. It often makes sense to perform these checks before you begin the costly process of applying for a spousal visa for your partner or as pre-marital checks before committing yourself into a serious relationship. Our goal is always to analyze our client’s situation and offer the best and most cost-effective solution in each case.

Accepting the results

For many of our clients taking the step to hire us proved to be a very wise decision which allowed them to save vast sums of money and heartache in the long run. It’s important to prepare for the results of your investigation, to consider all potential outcomes and how you might react to them. Whilst we always try to offer our clients the support and advice, for some people the truth can be a hard pill to swallow, especially if the investigation leads us to taking photos/videos of their partner with other men.

Thailand, Thai women, and Thai culture are all very different to the Western world. Due to the prevalence of romance scams it usually makes sense to run a Thai girlfriend background check when you’re getting to know a Thai woman, no matter how you met each other or the stage of your relationship. Please feel free to contact us and see what we can do to help in your case.


5 things I hate about my Thai girlfriend

April 19, 2020 - Reading time: 4 minutes

There are tons of articles with people telling you ‘things I love about my Thai girlfriend’; however it seems that not many guys are brave enough to describe the other side of the coin. In this article I’m going to explain some things that I hate about my Thai girlfriend, while I’m sure that not every one of these points applies to all Thai women, I think that many guys will be able to relate with some of these observations made here.

Disclaimer: This article was contributed to our blog by our friend Danny G. The views expressed in this article do not necessarily reflect or represent the views of Pattaya Private Investigators.

5 things I hate about my Thai girlfriend

  1. She is not financially independent
    Some Thai women earn a lot of money. Heck, many Thai ladies probably earn more money every month than I do. Sadly my girlfriend is not one of them. My girlfriend dropped out of high school and will never be able to earn much more than the minimum wage in Thailand unless she either goes back to university and completes a degree or starts her own business. Neither of these options will be possible without support coming from my back pocket.
  2. Her English isn’t good
    Again, there are many Thai women that speak excellent English - my girlfriend isn’t one of them. She speaks broken English and sometimes I can find it hard to understand what she is saying, especially if we’re talking about something complicated or involving emotions. We often resort to using Google translate on our phones so that we’re able to understand each other. If I tell her something that she doesn’t understand she will usually laugh or say “yes”, which is fine for light conversation but can (and has) create serious misunderstandings.
  3. Her family always come first
    My girlfriend’s family always comes first. I’m not sure if all women carry the financial burden for their parents their entire lives but with my partner this does seem to be the case. Whatever financial woe or problem her parents have is passed directly onto her, and if she can’t help then the buck ultimately stops with me. My girlfriend’s commitments to her family are not only financial… If there is ever any type of issue back in the village (specifically if there is ever a funeral) then she will want to jump on the first plane back there. From what I’ve seen and experienced, it seems like Thai women are never completely independent from their parents.
  4. ‘Saving face’ can be a nightmare
    The topic of ‘saving face’ is definitely something that you should look into in depth if you are starting to become involved with a Thai woman. There are many points to consider and this whole concept can be hard to get your head around if you’re coming from a Western background. In summary, ‘saving face’, at least for myself, means that my girlfriend will never back down in an argument. Even if she is clearly in the wrong, she will never back down or admit defeat. Instead of getting worked up and into endless arguments, it’s important to offer a ‘way out’ for your girlfriend, a compromise that allows her to back down without admitting she is in the wrong… If you can’t master this technique then the argument will never stop, because Thai people never want to lose face.
  5. She can’t cope with life in Europe
    My girlfriend constantly talks about moving to Europe. She wants to work menial jobs in Europe and save up money. This is surely a dream for many Thai ladies. I took her back to the UK for a 3 month holiday, and during her time there was some definite issues which popped up. The first being food. Whereas many foreigners are able to live in Thailand and eat Thai food, my girlfriend cannot eat English food, it’s too bland for her. I ended up spending a lot of money ordering Thai takeaway food for her most nights and driving the other side of the country to find oriental supermarkets for ingredients so that she could cook Thai food. For this and many other reasons she could not adjust to life in the UK.

Check your Thai girlfriend

Due to the prevalence of romance scams in Thailand it often makes sense to perform due diligence on your partner. We can help by running Thai girlfriend background checks and also through conventional investigations such as our decoy service or through personal surveillance. Please feel free to contact one of our experienced team members for a free quote.


Prison visits in Thailand

January 8, 2020 - Reading time: 1 minutes

Is your family member or friend locked up in a Thai prison? We appreciate that incarceration can be an extremely stressful period for friends and relatives, especially if you are based overseas and struggling with language/cultural barriers.

We have found that Western embassies are often overstretched and lacking the resources to properly care for their imprisoned citizens. Our agency can help to fill this void by going the extra mile and supporting our clients through what can be the most stressful period of their lives. We can help to improve the quality of life for prisoners, far beyond the help provided by lawyers or embassy assistance.

Our agency is proud to support the friends and relatives of prisoners incarcerated in Thailand. Furthermore, we are able to arrange VIP prison visits and preferential treatment for your loved one. Using our high level contacts we are able to facilitate VIP prison visits and meetings at any prison in Thailand.

Our contacts are able to improve the standard of life for people locked up in Thai prisons. VIP visits might include extended visiting times and be held in private, out of earshot from other prisoners or prison staff. We can also arrange extra privileges for your loved one such as extra food, toiletries and luxury items, improving their comfort level behind bars.

We are also able to help prisoners wind down and liquidate their assets while locked up, acting in their best interests and protecting their assets.

Please feel free to contact one of our experienced team members for advice on your situation and a free quote.


Thailand drone hire with operators

November 30, 2019 - Reading time: 1 minutes

Do you need to hire a drone and a drone operator in Thailand? As Thailand's leading detective agency, our agents regularly use drones to conduct land surveys, inspect buildings, and for many other different purposes related to our work.

Our staff can travel to any province in Thailand from our Bangkok office.

Our agents are some of the best drone operators in Thailand with hundreds of flight hours experience. Using state of the art drones and UAVs, we can gather high definition images and video for countless different reasons. We are also fully versed and up-to-date on the ever changing laws and regulation surrounding drone use in Thailand.

As a detective agency based in Thailand, we started using drone technology at the request of our clients. There are countless different reasons why you might like to hire a drone in Thailand; for example, if you’re purchasing a piece of land then drone footage can provide a useful oversight of the surrounding area’s elevation. For property purchases, we have used drones to check the condition of roofs that would not otherwise be accessible. If you need drone stock footage of Thailand then we might be able to help you by capturing original video for your project.

We have also gathered drone footage for use in documentaries, for websites, property advertisements and more.

If you’re looking to hire a drone in Thailand, please be aware that we supply drones with skilled operators. We do not rent out drone equipment on its own.

For more information and a free quote, please get in touch with us, including as much information as possible with your inquiry (such as the address where you would like us to work). We will be glad to hear from you.


Thailand criminal records check

October 13, 2019 - Reading time: 1 minutes

If you need to check a criminal record in Thailand, we can help.

We can check Thai criminal records as part of a background check, or as a standalone service if you prefer. Checking criminal records can be useful to learn more about the history of the subject and whether or not this is a person you would like to enter into a romantic or business relationship with.

Running a criminal background check on your girlfriend or partner can be a good way to perform your own due diligence on them and make sure that you are well informed on their background and past history.

Criminal record checks can also be very useful for employment pre-screening, making sure that the person you’re considering employing is trustworthy and does not have any skeletons on their closet.

Our detectives can also offer you more conventional investigations, including personal surveillance and our decoy service. The best course of action will depend on your circumstances (or the subject’s)… Feel free to get in touch with us for a free consultation and we will advise you on how best we can help.

Please include as much information as possible when contacting us regarding criminal record checks, such as why you need to perform the check, and any other information you would like us to uncover for you.

Please feel free to get in touch with us for a free quote.