If you’re planning to take a lady from a bar in Pattaya and spend time with her, you’ll need to pay a fee known as a “bar fine” to the establishment where she works.
In Pattaya, standard beer bars typically charge between 500 THB and 1,500 THB for bar fines. Beer bars in quieter, non-tourist areas may charge as little as 300 THB. Go-go bars, on the other hand, tend to be more expensive, with bar fines ranging from 1,500 to 2,500+ THB, especially for popular ladies in high-end venues.
The cost of a bar fine varies depending on the type of establishment and sometimes the time of night (for instance, some bars reduce their bar fines after midnight). Go-go bars almost always charge more than beer bars.
Bar fines are payments made to the bar, allowing a customer to take a staff member with them. The lady in question typically receives a portion of this fee (usually around one-third). The bar fine itself does not cover any compensation for the lady; you’ll need to agree on a separate payment with her directly.
These fines also provide a certain level of ‘protection’ for customers, as the lady can be traced back to the bar if any issues arise, such as theft or misconduct. Knowing that they are accountable, most ladies will avoid any inappropriate behaviour.
Generally, bar fines are not negotiable. You’ll be expected to pay whatever amount the bar’s mamasan or cashier asks for. However, if you plan to pay a bar fine for multiple days or weeks, some bars may offer a discount—though this is entirely at their discretion. Not all bars provide ‘bulk discounts,’ especially if the lady is popular or the bar is short-staffed.
When paying bar fines for extended periods, the bigger concern often isn’t the cost but the potential of becoming emotionally involved. Many men fall for the ladies and become entangled in a ‘bar girl scam,’ where the lady continues to work at the bar despite supposedly being in a relationship with a previous customer.
When a lady leaves the bar with a customer, she’s no longer attracting patrons or having drinks purchased for her. With one less staff member, the bar loses revenue. Bar fines are essentially compensation for this loss.
Every year, thousands of foreign men visit Pattaya and fall in love with bar girls. If you spend significant time with one particular lady, you may find yourself in a similar situation.
Although some relationships between bar girls and foreigners work out, these are rare. For every success story, there are numerous cautionary tales.
Men who fall for bar girls often say, “She’s different!” or “She’s not like the others!”. When emotions take over, it’s easy to lose perspective.
Whether she works in a beer bar, go-go bar, gentleman’s club, or massage parlour, bar girls are typically in these jobs to support themselves and their families. Many have children from previous relationships and also need to care for their parents. The minimum wage in Thailand is quite low, often insufficient to support a family.
Without a university degree, it’s difficult to find a well-paying job in Thailand, leading many women to bar work to earn enough money. If you enter a relationship with a bar girl, you may need to send money regularly to support her and her family, which can lead to issues.
Stories of “bar girl scams” in Pattaya are common. Many men fall in love with these ladies and send them money, believing the lady will stop working or has returned to her family village. In reality, many bar girls continue to accept bar fines and leave with customers while still receiving financial support from a foreign boyfriend.
A common scam involves a lady maintaining multiple relationships with different foreign men, each thinking they’re the only one. This can allow some bar girls to earn substantial amounts of money.
You might be reading this and thinking, “That could never happen to me” or “She’s really different”… but this mindset is what leads many men to fall victim to bar girl scams. In reality, most bar girls are quite similar in their motivations.
If you do find yourself in a relationship with a bar girl and want to know if she’s truly loyal, we can help uncover the truth.
We often conduct investigations into bar girls working in Pattaya to verify their loyalty to their foreign boyfriends. Most are not faithful and continue to leave with customers while their boyfriends are abroad. These investigations can save clients significant amounts of money, as well as emotional pain and heartache.
Learn more about bar girl investigations.