Does your girlfriend work in a Thai massage parlor? Thai massage is famous the world over. If you mention “Thai massage” to anyone that hasn’t visited Thailand, you might find them associate it with the sex industry and mentions of “happy ending massages”. There are thousands of massage shops all over Bangkok and Pattaya. Many of them offer massages in large open plan rooms… Many other shops have private rooms that customers are lead to for their massages; and plenty other shops provide ‘short-time’ hotel rooms above the massage shop itself.
If someone tells you that they work in a massage shop in Thailand, it’s impossible for you to know if they are involved in the sex industry or not. Many massage shops are legitimate businesses with the staff being trained at a massage school before starting work. Illicit businesses do not advertise themselves as such, as their activities are against Thai law. Genuine massage shops look identical to massage shops which act as brothels and allow their staff to work as prostitutes. You cannot tell simply by looking at a massage shop if they have private rooms upstairs or offer other services to their customers.
Seedy massage shops do not hire trained staff. Genuine masseurs in Thailand attend 3-4 week long courses to learn the proper way to give a traditional Thai massage. The only way to be sure that your girlfriend or partner is not selling sex or ‘massages with extras’ is to hire a private investigator… And that’s where we come in. We have busted hundreds of Thai women working in massage parlors and selling themselves for money. We can guarantee you the best access to the truth and offer nothing but facts in how events unfolded. We never pay for extras or sexual services; our job is only to establish the truth and report back to our clients.
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Thousands of foreign guys visit Thailand each year and form romantic relationships with Thai women. If you're one of them, you should be aware of signs and things to look for in your Asian spouse. Thai culture is very different to countries in the west, so we've compiled these top 10 warning signs we think are a good starting point.
She constantly talks about money or asks you for money
A good Thai woman would never request money from a man she is just starting a relationship with; this is not an appropriate sign when you are still getting to know each other and should act as a red flag. Common excuses for money can include: her parent’s buffalo is sick, she needs money for her family's medical bills, home improvement, or even just help paying for rent and food... Many Thai women that have been involved with the sex industry are especially good liars and know how to get money from foreign men!
She spends a lot of time in bars
Alcohol is tolerated in Thai society and culture, but responsibly so. Most people in Thailand wouldn't consider spending night after night sat on a bar stool getting wasted. If you're looking for a party animal and someone to have a casual time with, this could suit you. But if you're looking for a serious, stable relationship, maybe this isn't the person for you. If your girlfriend is working at a bar in Thailand then this is another story altogether... Most of the bar girls investigated by us are found to be cheating on their foreign boyfriends. Learn more on our bar girl investigations page.
She has tattoos
While this point in itself doesn't automatically make someone a bad person, tattoos on women are very much frowned on in Thai society. Tattooed women have become synonymous with the sex industry in Thailand with bar girls and go-go dancers frequently sporting ink. Outside of the night life and in normal society, women with tattoos carry a stigma and this should raise another red flag against your Thai partner. See our blog post about Thai women with tattoos.
She smokes cigarettes
Good women that haven't been involved in the sex industry night life don't tend to use tobacco in Thailand. Smoking cigarettes is very common with ladies working in shady beer bars and can be a sign of a troublesome past.
She wears a large amount of gold
Gold is worn in Thailand and used as an investment as it can easily be pawned or sold when falling on hard times. However, it should be worn tastefully with no more than a couple of items, for example one necklace and 2 rings. If someone is wearing multiple thick gold chains worth thousands of dollars, they are seen as flaunting their wealth and showing off. This isn't an attractive trait and could be a sign they are used to a very expensive lifestyle.
Her English is very good but she never attended university
Public schools in Thailand do not tend to teach a high level of English at all. If you're dating someone that speaks English but never attended university or English classes, this could be a sign that they've learned the English they speak by hanging out with foreigners in bars and other seedy places.
She swears a lot
A good, respectable Thai woman would not use English swear words when speaking to their boyfriend or anyone else. You might find it amusing if your darling swears like a drunken sailor, but this is definitely not a good thing and highly taboo in Thai culture.
She says that all Thai men are "no good"
With every group of people in the world there are good and bad, and Thai men are no exception. While there may be cases of domestic violence or abuse in Thailand, it's not true that all Thai men are bad. Thai men typically respect their girlfriends or wives in the same way that you would expect with a Western relationship. If a woman tells you that "all Thai men are no good" maybe that's a sign that Thai men just don't like her, and maybe there is a reason for that.
She is constantly on the phone texting while spending time with you
It is never a good trait if your girlfriend or the lady you're dating is constantly using her phone and texting while you're together. This type of behavior is disrespectful and shows that you’re not deserving of her full attention. You should become extremely suspicious if she hides her phone screen from you or walks away from you to secretly speak with people in English in the toilet or somewhere else... No matter the excuses, these are huge red flags that the woman could actively be in a relationship with another man.
She is involved with illegal drugs
This by far the most serious warning sign to look for in your prospective partner in Thailand. Drug use and drug dealing is extremely taboo in the kingdom. There are 35 crimes that can earn you a death sentence in Thailand with drug trafficking being on that list. If you encounter anyone involved with illegal drugs in Thailand the best thing to do is walk away.
As a leading detective agency based in Thailand, we have exposed hundreds of Thai women that were found to be cheating on their partners. These are some of the most common services that we provide in order to check Thai women:
Background checks are a good starting point to check your Thai girlfriend and can help you to avoid making costly mistakes. We can check a lady’s marital history, children, employment, education, and many other different factors. We offer standard and enhanced background checks depending on the needs of our client. Read more on our background checks page.
Personal surveillance is perhaps the most typical service provided by private investigators. We can track, follow and monitor people, collecting images and reporting back to our client with the results. Is she visiting other men late at night? Does she flirt with customers or colleagues while at work? Are men visiting her at home? These are the types of questions that surveillance typically answers.
Our decoy service provides a discreet and cost effective method of checking your Thai girlfriend and is most suited to ladies working in bars, go-gos, massage parlors, hotels, and any customer service oriented job. Most of the bar girls investigated by us are found to continue sleeping with other men while their boyfriends are living abroad - in these cases our decoy service can provide a clear answer to our clients.
We offer free quotes for all work. Please feel free to get in touch with us and see how we can help in your case.
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Are you Internet dating a girl from Pattaya or Bangkok? Internet dating is very popular in Thailand and there are countless different websites and apps used in the country to find prospective partners.
We have found that meeting ladies through internet dating tends to give a false sense of security. It is very easy for someone to lie about where they work, as well as having graduated from university and many other different facts that makes someone attractive to the opposite sex. It's hard to cut off a relationship with someone after you've spoke daily for several months and met them in Thailand... and this fact isn't lost on them.
If a woman has been involved with the sex industry for many years and looks to dating through the web to find a foreign husband... Will she be honest about her line of work? Will she explain that she has been a prostitute for several years? We don't think this is very likely at all. Prostitution is highly stigmatized in Thailand as it is in most of the world and ladies of the night are fully aware of this. It's very easy to lie about this and claim to have a legitimate job.
Finding a girlfriend or a wife in Thailand is very different to dating in the western world. It has been reported that there is over 27,000 active prostitutes in Pattaya city alone, with it often being described as the sex tourism capital of the world. Internet dating can be a life line in helping prostitutes escape a life of poverty; it allows them to find a husband overseas while continuing their illicit line of work in the land of smiles. It also allows them to find multiple men that are willing to send them money regularly.
Many Thai women don't enjoy being involved with the sex trade, but it is a way to provide for themselves and their families with the Thai minimum wage around just $10 US per day. A lot of these women are expected to provide for their families and this can be hard to do on a meager wage.
A common tact among internet dating hookers to hide their profession is to find a business near to their home and take many different photos there. This could be a restaurant or a café which tend to have informal dress codes for their staff. It is easy to visit such a place and take photos which can then be uploaded onto dating sites and sent to their boyfriends overseas. We have even seen women pose wearing uniforms from the shop to make these photos appear more convincing. Without being in Thailand yourself it's impossible for you to discover the truth yourself, but very easy for us to help you!
We believe that if you are becoming involved in a romantic relationship with a Thai woman that it is best to get her checked out early in the relationship. The more time goes on, the more attached you will become to the lady, and the more forgiving you're likely to be of her deception. If you think that we can help you, send us a message today explaining your situation and we'll reply with a free, no obligation quote.
“Can you bar fine my girlfriend?” – This is a question we regularly answer for our clients. Thousands of men visit Pattaya, or Bangkok every year and become involved in romances with ladies working in beer bars or agogos. In the PI world we call this type of job a “sting operation” or a “honeypot trap”. It is a test of faithfulness that cannot be argued and leaves no doubt of the situation.
You might already have questions about the faithfulness of your girlfriend… Is she hiding her phone screen from you? Is she still talking to that guy on Facebook? Often times, if your girlfriend is working at a bar in Pattaya, the easiest way to figure out if she is loyal to you is a simple “bar fine test”. This is usually cheaper, faster and more effective than other routes of investigation.
If you looking to hire a private detective to attempt and bar fine your girlfriend, there are some things you should consider:
The first thing you should consider is the age of investigator you’re hiring. Popular bar girls can earn good money through customers buying drinks for them as well as tips. A lot of the time these girls aren’t desperate and can pick and choose who they spend the night with. The results of a bar fine test can vary hugely, for example if you were to hire a 60-year-old investigator, verses a 35-year-old smartly dressed foreigner.
At PattayaPI, we prefer to use younger men for these tests, and ensure that they are always smartly dressed and polite. If you hire a PI that wears a stained Chang beer tank top, your results may not be accurate. Saving face is a huge part of Thai culture and society. A bar girl that leaves the premises with a scruffy looking customer may lose face (damage her reputation) among her friends working in the bar.
Another important element to bar fine tests is evidence gathering. We have access to state of the art hidden camera equipment; however it can be extremely difficult to capture hidden camera video inside beer bars or agogos in Thailand. We have found in the past that the extremely loud disco music in most bars tends to drown out the conversation we’re trying to record. Capturing images with hidden cameras can also be challenging due to the dark lightening in a lot of establishments, combined with bright disco lighting… This can be a real problem as hidden cameras have very small lenses and the images can come out over exposed and be very disappointing.
We have developed unique techniques of proving to you that your girlfriend isn’t being faithful to you in the bar. Get in contact with us, explaining the details of your situation and we’ll be glad to explain what we think is the best evidence gathering technique for your scenario.
Lastly you should be prepared for the result, whichever way it goes. At PattayaPI, we will always offer you advice and support on your situation and suggest to you what we think is the best way forward. Of course, some of our clients don’t want advice from us and that’s fine too.
We are quite simply the best private investigators for determining the faithfulness of your girlfriend or wife, whether that means a bar fine test or a more elaborate investigation. Get in touch with us for a free, no pressure consultation.
On our website we list tattoos as a warning sign when getting involved with a Thai lady. On the face of it this may seem judgmental, but it is not without very good reason.
Tattoos in western countries are now firmly a part of pop culture. The days when tattoos were only seen on bikers, sailors and criminals are now long gone. In the west, tattoos are no longer a cause of stigma, they can be found on people from all walks of life and positions in society. Many high profile celebrities wear tattoos, and it’s not uncommon for those in respected positions to have tattoos in the USA and Europe.
In Thailand the situation is very different. Traditional Thai culture is quite reserved and conservative… You would be forgiven for thinking otherwise after spending a few nights drinking in Pattaya or any other tourist geared party area of the country. Older generations of Thai people frown on tattoos. The exception to this being sak yant, also known as “magic tattoos”, which are believed to offer the wearer protection and good fortune. These are seen much differently than images which have no religious significance.
However, sak yant tattoos are traditionally seen on Thai men. You will struggle to find sak yant , or any type of tattoo on an elderly Thai woman in the massive rural areas of Thailand.
Fashion tattoos, or any imagery aside from sak yant, are absolutely frowned on by most elderly people in Thailand. If you’re talking about a young Thai girl, this is likely to include her parents, grandparents and extended family. She has potentially isolated members of her family by getting tattooed.
Whilst we can’t demonstrate this statistically, we know from experience that a huge bulk of women with ink have previously been involved with the sex industry. These two things seem to go at least somewhat hand in hand in Thailand.
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The sex industry is stigmatized in Thai culture. It is not an acceptable occupation in Thailand and the lowest possible step of the social class ladder. Ask yourself, why would a Thai lady tattoo herself, when in doing so she permanently marks an involvement with the sex industry?
The attitude towards non-religious tattoos in Thailand is gradually shifting. Younger generations are becoming more and more tolerant of the practice as they’re exposed to it through western media, the internet, and meeting tattooed foreigners in person. There are Thai ladies with ink out there that have never been involved with the sex trade and simply enjoy this style of art work. However, this type of woman is in the minority.
For the time being at least, tattoos are largely stigmatized by older generations of Thais. While we wouldn’t suggest condemning someone based solely on their appearance, the presence of tattoos can be a contributing factor when judging the character of a Thai lady.
If you're starting to get involved with a Thai lady, all is not lost. If you have suspicions that she may be sleeping with other men while you're out of the country, or that she is already in another relationship, get in touch with us. We can put your mind at ease and probably for cheaper than you might think. Simply send us a message with the details of your situation and we'll reply to you with a free, no obligation quote. Our detectives work in Bangkok, Pattaya, Phuket and across Thailand.
PattayaPI is a leading detective agency based in Thailand has helped countless people with infidelity investigations. In 2017 alone, PattayaPI investigated hundeds of suspected cheating spouses in Thailand.
The knowledge and techniques we have learnt and continue to hone put us at the forefront of the PI industry. Our skills and experience can help you discover the truth quickly and efficiently.
At PattayaPI we are able to lead investigations into social media use and analyzing a target's digital footprint, these skills can be useful in missing persons investigations as well as infidelity investigations; as much information can be gained through learning about a targets' internet and social media activity.
Most people that consider hiring a private investigator are simply searching for the truth. We aim to deliver the truth to our clients quickly and cost efficiently. Because we offer fixed prices on work and no obligation quotes, the direction of investigations is controlled by our clients.