Top Scams to Avoid in Pattaya, Thailand
Published: July 19, 2023 - Reading time: 11 minutes
» Updated: October 19, 2024
It must be said that Pattaya, and indeed most tourist areas in Thailand, are relatively safe. The chances of you falling victim to crime or fraud here are no higher than they might be in most Western cities. However, much depends on the activities that you decide to partake in and the company that you keep during your time here.
The minimum wage in Thailand is very meagre, which can spur some to look for creative solutions to their monetary woes. It certainly pays to use your head and have your wits about you when travelling to any international tourist destination.
We have put together the following list based on our experiences in Pattaya that can help you to avoid some of the most common scams that you might encounter during your stay here.
1. Pattaya Bar Girl Scams
One of the most common scams that foreigners encounter in Pattaya are so-called ‘bar girl scams’. Whether you meet a lady working in a beer bar, massage parlour, go-go bar, nightclub, or even through internet dating, we often see similar scenarios play out time and time again.
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Let’s say you spend time with a lady working at a bar in Pattaya. You decide to form a relationship with her. At the end of your vacation, you return to your country and she promises not to go with any other customers… In our experience, the vast majority of these ladies will continue to sleep with customers despite having a boyfriend and promising not to.
Many of our clients find themselves becoming involved in romantic relationships with ladies that work in bars in Pattaya and subsequently instruct us to check their fidelity with a honeypot investigation (decoy service). Other ladies may claim to work 'normal jobs' in Pattaya while they in fact work in the nightlife industry. If you're not actually in the country with your girlfriend, it can be very difficult to tell without hiring a private investigator to check. We can conduct discreet surveillance to verify the lifestyle and activity of your partner while you're not around.
Another common bar girl scam in Pattaya is for ladies to have several different boyfriends at the same time. Some ladies might find themselves with half a dozen different sponsors who all believe they are the only man in her life. It may seem farfetched, but such cases are very common. We also see pregnancy scams occasionally and many other tricks used by bar girls.
Some ladies will trick their boyfriends into believing that they work a normal job while they actually work at a bar... Usually, the lady will take many photos of herself at a fake workplace in order to make this seem believable.
If your girlfriend is working in a Pattaya bar, massage parlour or go-go, then we can help check whether or not she is being faithful while you are out of town.
2. Taxi Scams
When you arrive in Thailand, it’s a good idea to get yourself a SIM card before leaving the airport. Getting a local SIM card will allow you to book taxis yourself without relying on Wi-fi by searching out taxi firms or by using ride-hailing apps.
If you rely on other people to arrange taxis for you, then you may find yourself paying middlemen fees along the way. For example, if you ask your hotel receptionist to book a taxi for you, then (s)he may possibly add on a small commission for their trouble.
Always Ask How Much When Entering a Taxi
Before sitting down in a taxi, it’s a good idea to ask your driver exactly how much he or she will charge you for the journey. After you have agreed on a fee, you can proceed with your journey.
If you are using ‘baht buses’ in Pattaya, however, this is one situation where you should not ask how much the journey will cost…
Baht Buses in Pattaya
If you are in Pattaya city for any length of time, then you will probably notice ‘baht buses’ cruising around the streets looking for customers.
Photo: A ‘baht bus’ carries passengers through Pattaya city.
Baht buses are pickup trucks that have been converted to include a seating area in the back of the truck. In Pattaya, they are typically blue in colour. These trucks circle around Pattaya in a big loop. Regardless of how long you are on a baht bus, you will need to pay the driver just 10 baht at the end of your ride.
The trick is to figure out which direction you are travelling in and get on a baht bus that is already going in that direction. Hail a baht bus and get on; when it's your stop, just push the button and hand the driver 10 baht. If you don't know which direction you are travelling in, simply use Google Maps on your phone – when the truck reaches your destination, you will know to push the button and get off.
On the other hand, if you speak to the driver before getting on a baht bus, then you will be privately hiring the truck from him, and the charge will be higher than 10 baht.
3. Hotel Room Valuables Scam
Many tourists tend to bring cash with them and electronics/tech or jewellery, which can add up to thousands of dollars in some cases. While thefts from hotel rooms are, in our experience, fairly rare, they can occasionally happen, and a wise precaution would be to lock your valuables up in a hotel room safe.
If you are relying on a hotel room safe to protect your belongings, then it would be a good idea to first check how secure that safe really is. If the safe has a default admin password, then opening it could be as easy as typing in “12345” or “00000000” and pressing “unlock”. You can check whether this is the case by finding the model number of the safe in your room and Googling its admin and default passwords.
Some people even take an additional precaution of bringing an extra lock with them, which ensures that the safe door cannot be opened without their key.
If you are travelling with a large amount of money or valuables, then you might consider hiring a safety deposit box for the duration of your visit.
4. Pickpocketing
Pickpocketing is not nearly as much of an issue as you might believe after having read an outdated blog post or travel guide. The truth is you are probably more likely to get pickpocketed in somewhere like London or Prague than in Pattaya.
However, pickpocketing can occasionally happen, usually in areas with many people around, such as busy markets.
Common sense is usually the best form of protection. Don’t carry more cash than you need to on any given day, consider leaving some of your credit/debit cards in your hotel room as a backup, and don’t walk around wearing more gold jewellery than ‘Mr T’.
5. Rental Scams
So-called ‘jet ski scams in Thailand’ are a topic which has been discussed in depth by most travel blogs in the past decade.
Simple concept: You rent a jet ski, then on its return, the vendor finds some mysterious damage (usually on the underside of the jet ski that you could not see or inspect before renting it). Then you pay for that damage.
If you are renting a jet ski, motorbike, or car, it would be a good idea to go around the vehicle closely before hiring it and take a video that highlights any pre-existing damage. Check reviews for the rental company before using them, especially for jet skis.
The roads in Thailand are not for the faint-hearted. Consider whether your driving ability and understanding of the roads are up to the task. And double-check that your travel insurance will cover you for any injuries, especially if you are hiring a motorbike.
There are many forms of transport available in Pattaya, such as motorbike taxis, car taxis, baht buses (songthaews), taxi apps, etc. There is no need for most travellers to rent a car or motorbike. If you do decide to rent a car or motorbike, remember to bring suitable documents such as an international driving permit from your home country and insurance that will cover you in the event of a crash.
“Those Who Want Respect, Give Respect”
In Thailand, many accept the adage that “the first person to raise their voice has lost the argument.” Remember this if you ever encounter a problem or issue during your stay.
In Western cultures, many tend to respond to their problems by quickly getting very angry, raising their voice, and shouting abuse at the nearest person. In many parts of Asia, including Thailand, this approach may not always have the desired effect.
Keeping your composure and remaining calm will almost always result in the best outcome to any problem for everyone involved, not least yourself.
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Pattaya Bar Girl Secrets from a Former Bar Manager
Published: March 8, 2025 - Reading time: 13 minutes
» Updated: March 9, 2025
Introduction: We interview Chris, a former bar manager who worked in Pattaya’s bar scene for over nine years. While we’ve changed his name for privacy reasons, Chris has seen it all during his time managing a popular bar in the heart of Pattaya city. He’s witnessed the highs, the lows, and everything in between when it comes to working in the Thai nightlife industry. In this interview, Chris shares his insights into the world of bar girls, managing a bar, and the complex dynamics at play. For obvious reasons, the name of his bar remains undisclosed.
How was it working as a bar manager in Thailand? Is that a good job?
It’s a young man’s game in my opinion. Being a bar manager or owner means drinking almost every night, and it takes a serious toll on your health. You need to be outgoing and approachable—over time, that also can become draining. It involves dealing with people and keeping them happy. I’ve seen numerous guys who retired and bought bars, only to drink themselves into an early grave. That’s why I threw in the towel—I just couldn’t handle the alcohol anymore. If you’re planning to do this long-term, be very careful. It isn’t a job I would recommend to guys with a low level of self control either.
What are some of the biggest misconceptions about bar girls in Thailand?
The biggest misconception is that a bar girl can remain faithful to you while she’s still working in the bar. A lot of guys think they’ve met “the one” and that she’s different, and she might be, but the reality is, if she’s still working in the bar, she’s still leaving with customers. That’s just her job. If she wasn’t doing that, she wouldn’t be making money. Over the years, some guys asked me to 'keep tabs' on their girlfriends for them, but in the interest of the business, I just couldn't get caught up in personal drama. I'd tell the boyfriends to send their lady back up to the village if he didn't want her to see other men.
Do bar girls ever refuse customers?
It’s extremely rare for a bar girl to turn down a customer. Even if the guy is old, overweight, or unattractive, most will still go with him because money is money. If anything, they might try to charge more if the man is particularly repulsive. That being said, I have seen a couple of situations where a girl has refused. Once, a guy had such bad body odour that every girl in the bar refused to go with him. I think it’s safe to say that all women hate the smell of body odour, and Thai ladies are no exception. Another time, a girl turned down a man because she was tipped off by the other staff that he was connected to her previous customer/sponsor, and she knew she was being tested by him. He couldn't speak Thai or understand what they were saying about him... But those are exceptions—most of the time, they’ll take whoever pays.
What’s your advice for newbies to the bar scene in Thailand?
Be careful, think with your big head, and don’t get carried away. If you’re going to spend time with women, stick to reputable bars and go-go bars where they have cameras and know who’s working there. Don’t get drunk to the point where you lose control—Pattaya is full of guys who’ve had too much and ended up in hospital or worse. And never drink and drive. Taxis and motorbike taxis are very cheap, so there’s no excuse. Don’t rent a scooter either. Protect yourself in every way possible.
What advice would you give to someone thinking about buying a bar in Thailand?
Be extremely careful. It’s a minefield. Owning a bar in Thailand is complicated. There’s a ton of paperwork, you need the right connections, and getting a work permit isn’t easy. Most bars are only leasehold deals and you’re essentially paying to have your name added to a lease, along with a few stools and some fridges. On top of that, scams are everywhere. If you’re serious about it, you need to spend a long time in Thailand first, understand how things work, understand the market, and get a good lawyer. This is not something for beginners.
Why do bar girls do this job? What motivates them?
Bar girls often do this job because they have few other options. Many of them come from poor backgrounds and work in bars because it’s one of the few ways to earn good money, especially if they are good looking and desirable. Most of the bar girls I’ve met have been single mothers, and usually the father provides zero financial support. For some, it’s an opportunity to earn more money than they would doing some minimum wage job, which is barely enough to support yourself, your parents, and a kid or two.
Are all bar girls looking for a foreign husband?
I think that a lot of bar girls are aiming to find a long term partner, however, this is not always true. Some ladies see the job as normal work and have no desire to stop, especially if they are able to earn good money (100,000+ THB per month, for example). I’ve seen ladies come straight off the bus from the village and start work without speaking any English besides ’Hello how are you'—I’ve seen how they can change over time. Believe me, if you’re being lied to by a lady that has five boyfriends, then you’re not going to find out by simply asking her some tough questions and making video calls to her at the same time every night—this is literally her job. Some ladies may come with the ambition of finding a husband, but after spending time with guys that have made broken promises and used them, the ladies themselves can understandably become hardened.
Can a bar girl be faithful if she has a boyfriend?
If she’s still working in the bar, then no—she’s still going with customers. That’s her job. If you’re serious about her, you need to take her out of the bar, clear any debts she has, fix her mom’s leaky tin roof, and make sure she has another way to make money. Take a trip up to the village and meet her parents in order to show her that you are serious, provide serious financial support. Get married. Otherwise, she will keep doing what she has to do to survive, and that means seeing other men. No matter what they tell you, bar girls don’t take relationships seriously if their 'boyfriend' allows them to continue working in a bar, how could they?
"But my girlfriend works at a bar and doesn't accept bar fines, she calls me every night as proof. She just earns money from drinks"
I'm sure that some guys reading this article will actually believe that, but unfortunately, it is bullshit. If you don't believe me, then please contact my friends at Pattaya Private Investigators. They can check for you, and if she is loyal, then you have nothing to fear. I've personally witnessed bar girls call their boyfriends from inside my condo on many occasions. They can sit on the toilet or just sit on the floor in front of a plain white wall in the condo and make a video call while I'm sitting on the bed listening to it and rolling my eyes. Once I overheard the conversation and the guy (an American) had purchased a diamond engagement ring for the lady—he totally believed that she was waiting for him to come back and marry him; he believed that she would never accept a bar fine. After all, she was making regular video calls as proof of that! Making calls or sending messages every night doesn't prove anything.
What is the most shocking thing you have seen?
That's a tough one. And it depends on what your idea of 'shocking' is. I've seen physical altercations happen which could've been avoided... Let me make a point of elaborating further. If you decide to 'take' a lady from a specific bar, then you must never return to that establishment and then try to 'bar fine' a different woman. We understand that it's their job, but doing this is likely to create feelings of jealousy, and would cause the lady to lose face. I've also seen 'shocking' situations where guys have tried to 'rescue' ladies... One guy built the lady a house to live in, it even had a nice swimming pool. As soon as it was finished, she came right back to working in the bar. Stuff like that is shocking. I've seen a lady receive millions of baht in a year only to lose it all due to a gambling addition. Lots of stuff. What shocks you?
Why are bar girls in Pattaya getting older?
As bar girls age, their options in the profession become more limited, but they continue working for financial security. As they get older, the demand for younger women in the bars can make it harder for them to find customers. But many bar girls don’t have pensions or savings to rely on when they get older. Their families often depend on their income, and in many cases, they have no other skills or means to make money. Because of this, older women may stay in the profession longer than they would like.
Why are bar girls in Pattaya getting fatter?
555. This is a question or comment I’ve often heard from old boys who first visited Pattaya in the ‘80s or ‘90s. I think people all over the world are generally getting bigger, and bar girls are no exception. The fascination many bar girls (and Thai people in general) have with Western culture could also explain why tattoos are becoming more common in Pattaya too—it's just because they're becoming more popular all over the world. Personally, I’m not attracted to women who are extremely skinny, so I’m not complaining.
Are the lady drinks always alcoholic?
... If you've got a lady that weighs 43 kilos (94 lbs) drinking 30 shots a night, do you think it's all alcoholic or not? It would be physically impossible for all the lady drinks to contain alcohol. You might be on vacation, but these ladies are in the bar every night and need to pace themselves.
Can you ever take the "bar" out of the girl?
It can be difficult to take the “bar” out of a girl. Even if you get her out of the bar, the lifestyle can be hard to change. A girl who’s spent years working in that environment can find it difficult to adjust to a different way of life. If she earns lots and lots of money in the past, then is she going to settle for your financial support instead? It’s not just about the money—it’s the attention, the lifestyle, the lust, and the connections they build. Getting a bar girl to leave her job behind and live a “normal” life is challenging, and it requires a lot of support and commitment, both from you and her.
Do you regret working in Pattaya?
No, not at all. It taught me a lot about human nature, and I have a lot of good memories about my time in Pattaya. Ultimately, I have decided to move on and further my professional career back home, but I think I'll always look back fondly on this time in my life.
How can I find out if my Thai girlfriend is being faithful?
If you have doubts, you already know the answer. But if you need proof, a PI can find out for you. Contact Pattaya Private Investigators for a free quote.
Final Thoughts?
Be careful in every sense of the word. Protect yourself, protect your interests, and don’t be stupid. Have fun, but don’t let emotions or alcohol cloud your judgement. Enjoy yourself, but always keep your eyes open.
Investigating My Thai Girlfriend in Pattaya: Lessons Learned
Published: November 16, 2024 - Reading time: 6 minutes
» Updated: December 4, 2024
When I first started dating in Pattaya, I thought I had struck gold. I met a lovely lady online who told me she worked in a clothing shop—something I was happy about. In a city like Pattaya, where so many women are tied to the nightlife scene, finding someone with what seemed like a “normal” job felt like a breath of fresh air.
For a while, things seemed great. We spoke all day every day and made plans for the future. But I couldn’t shake this nagging feeling that something wasn’t adding up. Despite her job at the shop, she would go out to nightclubs almost every weekend and post pictures from places all over Pattaya’s nightlife scene. Sometimes she would visit clubs during weekdays too, usually for an event or a party of some description, there was always a party. It just didn’t sit right with me. Call it gut instinct, but I knew I needed to dig deeper. In Pattaya, where nightlife is central to so many lives, trusting your intuition is crucial, especially when relationships are involved.
That’s when I came across PattayaPI, a private investigation service in Pattaya. Their reputation for professionalism and discretion immediately caught my attention. I wasn’t sure what to expect, but their team was quick to respond, professional, and easy to work with. I explained my situation and my concerns about my girlfriend in Pattaya, and they offered a few options to help me figure out what was really going on. In a city often linked with scams and deceit in relationships, having a trusted investigator is invaluable.
The First Investigation
We started with a simple surveillance operation. The investigators followed her one night as she left a club. I was shocked to see that she left with an older white man. Unfortunately, the busy crowds on Walking Street made it impossible for the agent to track where they went next, and although it was extremely suspicious I didn’t know for sure what she was up to.
Although I didn’t have all the answers yet, it was enough to convince me something was seriously off. In Pattaya, Walking Street and other popular nightlife hubs are teeming with distractions, but skilled investigators know how to gather crucial evidence even in chaotic environments.
Taking the Next Step: The Honeytrap Investigation
After discussing it with the team at PattayaPI, I decided to go for a honeytrap investigation. If you’ve never heard of this, it’s when a private investigator sets up a decoy to see how someone reacts in a specific situation. In this case, it involved sending an undercover agent to approach her at a club to see if she’d flirt back or take things further.
The results were exactly what I needed to know. She told the undercover agent she was single and, shockingly, agreed to go back to his hotel in exchange for money. That confirmed everything I had been worried about. Although she had a regular job in the daytime, she was also topping up her income by meeting with guys in the evenings. This kind of double life is more common than you’d think in Pattaya, particularly among women who rely on foreign support.
Why It Was Worth It
While I was disappointed, I was also relieved. Dating in Pattaya can be tricky, and it’s hard to know if the person you’re with is being honest, especially if they’re part of the nightlife scene. For all I knew, she could have been running the “Thai girlfriend scam,” juggling multiple foreign boyfriends at the same time for financial support. Her willingness to go home with the decoy and share her contact details certainly made that a real possibility. She also had many followers on social media and was attracting attention from men online.
For anyone dating in Pattaya, you need to consider how your girlfriend behaves when she’s out. If she’s spending all her time in nightclubs or bars, it’s worth asking yourself why—and how she might react if someone else shows interest. Drinking at clubs every night isn’t exactly cheap, and although I didn’t realise it at first, there would be no reason for her to visit clubs constantly if she wasn’t gaining from it financially. Pattaya’s nightlife isn’t just about fun; for some, it’s an additional source of income.
Why I Recommend PattayaPI
PattayaPI made everything simple and stress-free. They worked fast, handled things discreetly, and gave me the information I needed to make an informed decision. Without their help, I might have wasted months—or even years—on someone who wasn’t genuine.
If you’re dating in Pattaya and have doubts about your girlfriend, I can’t recommend PattayaPI enough. It’s not easy to get to the truth in situations like this, but their service was a lifesaver for me. I’d rather know the truth than live with uncertainty, and thanks to PattayaPI, I can move forward without regrets.
If you’re in a similar situation, don’t hesitate to reach out to them. Whether you’re dating a bar girl, go-go dancer, or anyone else connected to Pattaya’s nightlife, they can provide insights that help you make the best decision for your future.
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The Pattaya Go-Go Bar Investigation: A Cautionary Tale
Published: October 8, 2024 - Reading time: 7 minutes
» Updated: October 19, 2024
I was recently contacted by a man, whom we'll call Tom, who had just returned from a two-week holiday in Pattaya, Thailand. During his trip, he met 'Nina', a striking woman working in a go-go bar. They clicked right away and spent nearly every day together. Nina confessed she had fallen in love with him, and Tom, swept up in the excitement of the holiday, believed her.
Nina reassured Tom that she “would not leave the bar with any other customer” and promised to stay faithful even after he returned home. She claimed she was deeply in love and swore she wouldn’t see anyone else. To back this up, Nina called Tom every night at the same time, saying she had just finished work and was back in her room. This routine continued for weeks after Tom returned home, and, at first, it gave him some peace of mind.
However, as time went on, Tom began to feel uneasy. The perfectly timed calls and Nina’s insistence on her loyalty started to raise doubts. Sensing something was off, Tom contacted me, a private investigator, to find out what was really going on.
The Investigation
My first step was to visit the go-go bar where Nina worked. When I arrived, the mamasan (the bar’s manager) informed me that Nina wasn’t available, as she had already been “bar fined” for the evening. This meant she had left with a customer, despite what she had promised Tom. We continued with surveillance the next night and noticed a peculiar pattern.
The following evening, Nina arrived early, paid the bar fine herself, and left shortly after. She was closely followed, and it became clear she wasn’t returning to her room after work. Instead, she headed to an upscale hotel, where she spent the night with another man. This routine repeated itself over the next few days. Each evening, she would briefly check into the bar, make a quick call to Tom, and then leave to meet a different customer.
A Web of Lies
It became evident that Nina was juggling several relationships, all while convincing Tom she was committed to him alone. It’s likely she had multiple “boyfriends,” each believing they were the only one. She stayed in touch with them through messaging apps, sending regular updates and photos to maintain the illusion of exclusivity.
Nina had no intention of quitting her job or stopping her interactions with other guys. She was well-known among tourists and expats and clearly had no plans to change her lifestyle.
The Reality of Pattaya's Nightlife
Tom’s situation is, unfortunately, not unique. Many men visit Thailand, fall for a bar girl, and believe they’ve found something special. While some women working in these bars may fall in love, the reality is often more complex. Their work revolves around money, and unless they’re offered substantial financial support, they’re unlikely to stop seeing other customers.
In Nina’s case, she had no reason to leave her job. She earned good money from both her clients and men like Tom, who sent her money from abroad, thinking they were helping her out of love. Sadly, many women in this line of work juggle multiple relationships, leading each man to believe he’s the only one.
Financial Support: Is It Enough?
Some men think that offering financial support will encourage a woman to leave the nightlife and live a more conventional life. While this might happen in certain cases, it’s far from guaranteed. Many women accept the money and still continue their work, enjoying the income from various sources.
If you’re considering financially supporting someone in Pattaya’s nightlife, approach with caution. While it might seem like a way to help her leave the industry, there’s no guarantee she will remain loyal. Financial support alone may not change her lifestyle, especially if she’s used to the attention and money from multiple men.
Protect Yourself from Scams
Before making any financial commitments, it’s crucial to do your homework. Private investigators like us can help you uncover the truth about her background, past relationships, and current activities. Our background checks and decoy service checks can reveal whether she’s genuinely devoted to you or if she’s involved with others.
We’ve handled many cases where women promised to leave the nightlife, only to continue seeing customers while collecting money from boyfriends abroad. With our help, you can avoid being taken advantage of and ensure your relationship is based on honesty.
If you’re unsure about your relationship or want more information about our services, we offer free quotes for all investigative work. Simply submit a support ticket through our website, and we’ll get back to you promptly.
In Closing
While some women who work in Pattaya’s bars may genuinely fall in love with their customers, many continue seeing others to support themselves and their families. It’s a complex world, and without significant financial backing, most women won’t have much reason to change their lifestyle.
Don’t leave your future to chance. Get the facts, and protect yourself from potential scams. We’re here to help you uncover the truth.
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Finding Love in a Pattaya Bar: John's Bar Girl Story
Published: February 2, 2024 - Reading time: 11 minutes
» Updated: September 2, 2024
In the neon red glow of Pattaya city's famed nightlife, where the air is rich with the aroma of street food, the chatter of various languages, and the allure of escapade, a peculiar love story unfolded between John, a western visitor, and Noi, a bar girl he met during his Thai vacation.
John, a man seeking adventure and a reprieve from the monotony of his life back home, found himself mesmerised by the vibrancy of Pattaya city. It was in the sultry evenings, buzzing with the energy of tourists and locals intermingling, that he first met Noi, who worked at a beer bar near to his hotel. John had drank in the bar most days and gradually started getting to know Noi more and more during his visits. She was grace personified amidst the boisterous backdrop of the bar where she worked. With her laughter echoing over the music and her eyes mirroring the city's sparkle, she was incandescent, and he, inexorably drawn to her.
As the nights turned into days and the days folded back into nights, what started as a holiday girlfriend, a tale as old as travel itself, deepened into something more profound. As they spend day after today together, John began to fall in love.
Noi, with her sunny disposition and tales of dreams larger than the confines of the establishment's walls, very much seemed to reciprocate. It was not long that she began to profess her love for John and her desire for them to be in a serious relationship. Amidst promises and soft-spoken secrets, she told John that her interactions with customers were purely professional and that for him, she would make an exception. "For you, I not go with customer. I wait you come back" she had whispered, and he believed her. John believed that Noi would remain loyal to him and not leave the bar with any other customers while she waited for him to return
Returning to his home country, the distance did little to dampen John's feelings for Noi. They maintained contact through messages and calls, the connection seemingly growing stronger as days turned into weeks, then months. Noi would constantly send messages and photos to John, even calling at the same time every night after finishing work as 'proof' that she was not seeing other guys from the bar.
Despite friends' warnings and the niggling doubts planted by stereotypes of fleeting holiday romances with bar girls, John clung to the belief that what they had was genuine, and that Noi was truly different from the other women.
Constantly keeping in touch with his new girlfriend Noi online, John started to make plans for the future. Noi told him that she wanted to get pregnant and build a small home in her village for them to live in. John began to save up money and prepare for a future together with her, even getting prices for land in her village.
As the weeks and months drew on, John became more and more besotted by her, whilst she continued to work in Pattaya. He believed that she was 'the one' and that they could spend the rest of their lives together.
However, deep down John has a feeling that something wasn't right, and the inner turmoil eventually got the better of him. He hired a private investigator in Pattaya, convincing himself that it was merely a formality, a way to squash the doubts once and for all, to fight for the love he felt they both deserved.
The results from the private investigator, however, were a testament to the darker side of Pattaya, a piercing through John's romantic vision to reveal a stark truth: Noi had continued to accept 'bar fines' from customers while she waited for his return. The photos and testimonials collected were indisputable; she continued to leave the bar with other customers, engaging in the very practice she had assured him was reserved for a life she had left behind.
In the time that John had returned back to his home in the United States, Noi had accepted bar fines from dozens and dozens of other men on a regular basis. After all, she was attractive and knew how to get the most from her clients.
Devastated but now armed with the truth, John was forced to confront not only the reality of Noi's lies but also the frailty of his own hopes. He had been swayed by desire and the exotic allure of a vacation romance, unwilling to see the signs that to Noi, he might have been just another customer, albeit one she had managed to enchant beyond the duration of a holiday.
The path that love takes is often unpredictable and fraught with lessons sometimes learned in pain and disappointment. John's affair with Noi, though rooted in genuine emotion, was also a journey through self-discovery, a realization that love can sometimes be a mirage, especially when found amid the seductive chaos of Pattaya's nightlife.
In the end, the waves that John felt for Noi gradually receded. He came to understand that while people can fall in love under the most unexpected circumstances, the real challenge is in discerning the authenticity of affections and separating them from a purely commercial 'pay for play' type of arrangement.
John decided to send Noi a chunk of money, followed by continued monthly payments, and tell her to move back to the village. While Noi did move back to the village, she was still communicating with her past customers through WhatsApp/LINE and hidden Facebook accounts that she had setup.
After several more months, John had managed to forgive her for her past actions, and when a piece of land in her village became available, he decided to wire over the cash to purchase it. After sending over 400,000 THB in addition to Noi's monthly support payments, several more weeks passed until John was able to take time off work in order to return and visit Noi.
John arranged to meet her on his arrival in the airport, and Noi assured him that she was dying to be reunited with him. When John's plane eventually touched down after the long-haul flight however, Noi was nowhere to be seen. John noticed that her WhatsApp profile photo had disappeared, indicating that he had been blocked. He tried to call her through Facebook messenger however he found himself blocked there too.
Eventually John realised what had happened and checked into his hotel room alone. Devastated, angry and upset, he decided that he wasn't going to let this go. John took a taxi up to her village, and used her address from a receipt that she had previously sent him to locate her house.
On arriving at Noi's house, John was greeted by a high fence and padlocked gate surrounding the property. She didn't seem to be there. John asked his taxi driver to speak with the local people, and they advised him that Noi had been living with a younger Australian man in the village, but that they had recently left to spend time on an island in southern Thailand.
While some bar girls are honest and true to their word, they are few and far between. And when a lady's income is derived from accepting 'bar fines' from various customers on a regular basis, the urge to continue doing that in order to earn money can be difficult to resist - especially if your 'boyfriend' is thousands of kilometres away with little chance of him finding out.
Dating a bar girl from Pattaya
Ultimately, bar girls are in their profession in order to earn money - with many seeing as many customers as possible in order to support themselves and their families.
Bar girls typically look for their boyfriends to 'take care' of them and provide financial support in the form of a monthly allowance. However, in many cases seen by us, bar girls will continue to see other customers in-spite of receiving money from their boyfriends. Many ladies that work in bars will also try to have multiple boyfriends at the same time, often using multiple different social media profiles in order to achieve this.
Many bar girls will call their boyfriends every night after finishing work in order to show that they are sleeping in their own room. However, this measure can be easily defeated. For example, some ladies will only agree to 'short time' sessions with customers. Other times the lady will make a call to her boyfriend from the balcony or bathroom of her customer's hotel room... Or she might tell her customer that she needs to collect some clothes from her room before joining him - which provides her with the opportunity to call her boyfriend from her room, before sneaking off again.
For those wandering the streets of Pattaya, seeking connections in the ephemeral world between sundown and sunrise, this tale serves as a cautionary whisper: sometimes, the city that never sleeps may dream up illusions too compelling to question until daylight brings back reality.
Had John not chose to hire the services of a private investigator, then he may never have discovered what was really going on.
Honeytrap investigations in Thailand
At PattayaPI, we are experts at performing 'honeytrap' type investigations, which can be used to easily check the loyalty of your partner while you are outside the country.
There is nothing worse than the feeling that you are being lied to, and in many cases instructing a PI might be the only way for you to discover the truth of your relationship.
If your girlfriend is working in a bar then we can help to investigate her and test her loyalty. Our experienced detectives often conduct honeytrap investigations in Pattaya, Bangkok, Phuket, and all areas of Thailand. We offer free, no pressure quotes for all work. Feel free to tell us about your case and see how we can help.
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