Having a Thai go-go dancer as your girlfriend

April 11, 2019 - Reading time: 3 minutes

Are you thinking about having an a go-go dancer as your girlfriend? This post will touch on the subject of men that are together with Thai ladies working in go-go bars.

Many Western guys are in relationships with go-go dancers. Usually these are open relationships; the lady continues to sleep with men to earn a living while her boyfriend back home waits to video call her once a night when she finishes work. If you’re seeking this type of arrangement we have some words of advice for you.

First of all, anyone in a relationship with an a go-go dancer should be mindful about sexually transmitted diseases. Prostitution (as of 2019) is illegal in Thailand, bars are not obliged to send their employees for testing. There are many false rumors circulating online that these women are regularly tested for STDs, sadly this is mostly untrue. The cost of testing one or two dozen women every couple of months would add up and be another overhead for the bar owners, who are in no way required to perform these tests. Don’t underestimate the amount of men a popular dancer can leave with on a regular basis, and don’t take risks with your health.

Secondly, be aware that many Thai ladies in this field of work aim to recruit several boyfriends. They want 4 or 5 different boyfriends at the same time. Maybe you’re not sending her money this month but another ‘boyfriend’ might. How can you tell if a lady has multiple boyfriends? You can’t. Women that play this game are professionals, using different cellphones, different social media personas, and a large toolbox of convincing excuses that have been tried and tested over a number of years. Don’t think you can outsmart a Thai lady running this type of scam, you won’t. Popular bar girls or dancers often hone their skills over many years… They’ve heard and seen it all before. Is she speaking to other men while you’re not around? Does she have multiple Facebook accounts for different men? It’s very difficult to avoid this trap.

If you’re planning to take your girlfriend out of the bar or go-go and help her find another job; then you need to be ready and willing to wire significant amounts of money to her. Popular dancers are often able to earn lots of money every month, and if she’s used to a high rolling lifestyle then it might cost you a small fortune helping to support her. You will be responsible for supporting her, her immediate family and anyone else that relies on her… This can really add up, and it would be wise to perform some due diligence of your own before taking on these financial burdens.

Does she claim never to leave the bar with men? Most often these claims are false and the ladies will masterfully hide their activities while their boyfriend is out of town. Again, don’t underestimate these women; some are incredibly skillful at lying to their partners. If she is leaving the bar with customers, you will never find this out on your own if you’re out of the country. This is where we come in.

We can find if your girlfriend is leaving the go-go with customers or giving her number out to men. We can find out if your girlfriend tells customers that she’s single or in a relationship. As a detective agency based in Thailand, this is our job and we have already exposed countless ladies working in go-gos. If you would like the truth about a lady, we can deliver, and often hiring a PI is the only way to uncover the truth when dealing with ladies involved with this line of work. We work across Thailand and offer free quotes for all work, get in touch with us today and see what we can do for you. Or visit our homepage for more information about what we do.


Happy Songkran 2019 from PattayaPI

April 4, 2019 - Reading time: ~1 minute

Happy Songkran 2019 from PattayaPI

We would like to wish all of our clients new an old a very happy Songkran in 2019. Please be careful on the roads and keep yourselves hydrated by drinking plenty of water. Have a great time and thank you for choosing us.


Is your girlfriend freelancing in Pattaya?

March 16, 2019 - Reading time: 2 minutes
Is your girlfriend freelancing at Insomnia in Pattaya?

There is a lot of information online about bargirls and go-go dancers working in Pattaya. Something that's spoken less about is ladies that freelance. Many ladies living in Pattaya (or Bangkok) work as freelancers. Some of these women have legitimate jobs (in supermarkets, restaurants, banks) in the daytime and freelance in the evening times. Other women will not have any jobs and only work as freelancers, meeting men in some of the many clubs and discos across the city.

So how can you tell if your girlfriend is freelancing in Pattaya? There are many clubs in Pattaya that are popular with freelancers, including Insomnia (iBar), 808 club, Lucifer, Mixx, Torus (and many other places). Many foreign boyfriends of Thai ladies will never believe that their girlfriend is working as a freelancer and meeting men at clubs in the city, despite the lady visiting these clubs every single day. Often times these boyfriends will be unaware of how many different men their partner is sleeping with during her job as a freelancer.

Here's what you need to remember: Drinks at clubs such as these are expensive. If you're visiting these clubs every day or many times per week you must spend a lot of money on drinks. A Thai woman that is out of work will not visit Insomnia every night (or another club) unless she is going there to meet up with men. When she meets a customer at one of these clubs she will earn money to support herself.

Realize that if your girlfriend is visiting a club every day or very regularly, that the cost of buying several drinks per night in these clubs is high. An unemployed Thai lady will not spend all the cash she has buying expensive drinks in clubs, unless she is specifically in those clubs for the purpose of meeting customers. (Or she has lots of money.) This is really a no-brainer when you break down and think about the facts of someone's lifestyle and financial state. Is your girlfriend freelancing in Pattaya?

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"I don't send money to my Thai girlfriend"

February 20, 2019 - Reading time: 2 minutes

Are you involved with a Thai lady that doesn't ask you to send her money? Some men see this as a positive trait in their girlfriends, but it can often be a cause for concern, and here's why.

Thailand is a developing country and it's likely that your partner doesn't earn a generous pay packet. The cost of living in a major city such as Bangkok or Pattaya is also relatively high.

At the time of writing, the Thai minimum wage is around 350 THB per day, or 10,000 THB per month. It can be a struggle to live on such a small amount of money, and especially without support from a spouse. Think about it... Could you live on just 10,000 THB per month in a major city? For most of us it would be a real struggle to survive.

Thai women are also expected to provide for their families, and especially so if they have children. If the lady is earning minimum wage or not much more than minimum wage, it would be near impossible to support herself as well as her family back home.

Ladies in Thailand aren't stupid, and many of them know that asking their newly minted Western boyfriend for money will be seen as a red flag for them. If she is not asking you for money, you need to deeply examine her circumstances and question how she is able to support herself. After all, one of the major perks of being with a white guy is their ability to help out with money... This is, of course, why a lot of Thai ladies target Western men.

If your girlfriend works at a bar and you're not sending her money, then it's almost certain she is sleeping with other men to support herself. A bargirl's wage is designed to be propped up by regularly leaving the bar with customers. This also applies to women working in massage parlors and other roles dealing with the public... However, if your girlfriend works a different job, don't think that you're safe.

Women that work regular jobs often turn to freelancing in nightclubs to meet with customers in the evening or night time. Other ladies prefer to meet men using hookup apps or online dating, to earn more money and subsidise their incomes from regular jobs. Other women might already be receiving plenty of money from other boyfriends abroad.

Essentially it should be a cause for concern if your girlfriend doesn't ask for money, unless the lady is in a stable job where she is earning a decent wage (30,000+ THB per month). It would be wise to deeply examine the woman's income and cost of living before declaring this to be a positive trait, as she may be concealing other incomes from you.


What are bar girl scams in Pattaya?

January 8, 2019 - Reading time: 2 minutes

What are the bar girl scams in Pattaya? Thousands of forigen men visit Thailand and especially Pattaya each year. They often meet ladies in bars. Bar girls in Pattaya are hookers and sell sex in exchange for money.

If you're in a relationship with a lady working at a Pattaya bar, you will need to give her money so that she stops working at the bar and meeting new men.

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For some guys this can work out OK. For others it does not. Thousands of bar girls have multiple forigener boyfriends. They might have 3-4+ different guys sending money each month, and each guy thinks he is her only boyfriend. This means that the lady is able to earn lots of money from multiple boyfriends at the same time; and plus if she still works at the bar then she can still sleep with more men and try to find new boyfriends to send more cash.

Other times a man will have an attractive bar girl as his girlfriend and she sleeps with different guys every night of the week... But of course her "boyfriend" totally believes that she "never goes with customers" or that "she is different".

She is probably not different. All Thai women are responsible for supporting their families with money (Thai men are not). For this reason Thai women need as much money as possible and sometimes the way they earn this is by having many different guys send money.

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How much does a dowry cost at a Thai wedding?

December 28, 2018 - Reading time: 2 minutes

Money for a Thai wedding dowry payment

Marriage is very important in Thai culture. If you're with a Thai lady and not married, then very often the relationship is not seen as legitimate. We have seen time and time again that Thai women can be open to relationships with other men until the day that they are married. If you are in a serious relationship with a Thai lady, it would be advisable to get married as soon as possible.

You may also need to get married in order to be eligible for visas in Thailand or overseas.

When you marry a Thai woman you will need to pay a dowry (also known as "sin sod") to her parents. This is a tradition that dates back hundreds of years in Thailand.

So how much does a dowry cost when you're getting married in Thailand? Average dowry payments in Thailand tend to range from 500,000 THB to 1,000,000 THB cash. Often the cash payment will be accompanied by gold, properties and high end vehicles.

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This money is paid to the parents of the bride by the husband-to-be. It's also very common for cars, as well as properties or land to be included as part of the dowry payment.

If you are paying a large amount of money to the parents of your Thai fiancée, it's important that you are totally sure this woman is committed to you, and that she won't just take the money and run off. Searching the internet you will find countless horror stories surrounding relationships with Thai women.

After all, if you were spending this type of money on any form of business venture, you would do proper due diligence and make sure that you're making a sound investment. We can help as we specialize in investigating ladies all over Thailand.

The cost of investigating your spouse is often negligible compared with the hefty dowry payment you'll need to make when tying the knot. We can find out if a Thai lady is in other relationships, and how she responds to being approached by other men. Get in touch with us today for a free, no pressure consultation.